Who are you living for?

In all honesty, I'm not sure I've felt this way about the death of a celebrity since Sept 13, 1996 (look it up:) Did I know the man personally? Nope! Was I ever in his presence physically? Nope! Did he even care who I was? Probably not. But as a TRUE FAN of the Late Great Sherman Hemsley aka George Jefferson, I come to you guys in deep thought today!!

Now don't misunderstand this. This is not some soak filled rant about the tragedy of celebrity death. I am a firm believer that "death is a part of life."  I even had my 1st heart to to heart with my own child about the topic when he was only 5 or 6 years old. But this is about the lasting impression that celebs leave with us and why? In the wake of Whitney Houston's untimely demise, and the death Lisa "Left Eye" Lopez's 10 year anniversary, I had to take a moment an reflect on how many "icons" we have actually lost over the past decade. Wait, let's make it two decades so I can include Tupac Shakur. I apologize in advance if I omit someone that touched your heart below, but don't miss the point:

The King of Pop: Michael Jackson
The Voice: Whitney Houston
The Epitome of Class: Princess Diana
Pope John Paul II: Enough Said
Mr. Nascar: Dale Earnhardt
The GodFather of GoGo: Chuck Brown
The Man of Many Shows: Dick Clark
The King of Cool: Don Cornelius
The Blender of R&B/Hip Hop: Heavy D
A King of Comedy: Bernie Mac
Mr. Sweepstakes: Ed McMahon
The 1st African American Childhood Star: Gary Coleman
The Ageless One: Lena Horne
The Wonder Woman: Farrah Fawcett
U.S. Royalty: Ted Kennedy
The World Changer: Steve Jobs
Beyonce Before Beyonce: Aaliyah
Superman: Christopher Reeves
The Queen of Branding: Elizabeth Taylor
The Game Show Master: Merv Griffin
The Animal Lover: Steve Irwin
The End of 60 Min: Andy Rooney
The Legend: Ray Charles
The King of Soul: James Brown
Mr. Producer: Aaron Spelling
Mr. Yankee: George Steinbrenner

Honorable mention to Vesta "Congratulations" Williams...Mike "Beastie Boy" D...Heath "The Best Joker Ever" Ledger....Every "Golden Girl" (except Betty White)...but whether we want to admit it or not, the aforementioned people touched the lives of MILLIONS during their "physical existence" on the planet.

So why is my heart heavy for a sitcom actor who does not even know I exist? No let me rephrase, why in the HELL am I still thinking about "George Jefferson?"

I'll tell you why: He/they represent reminders to you of certain stages in your life. Some represent what's "impossible" to you. Others represent boldness to you! Some represent change to you, while others represent the pain that runs through you. Notice I speak in present tense and choose not to say "represented" because their existence still resonates IN you.

However, there's a flipside!  In spite of aallllllllll the emotion, the life or death of an icon may conjure up, one thing is undeniable....even as you read the list (at least ONCE) you said to yourself, "Oh yeah, he/she did pass away a few years ago didn't they?" What does this really say about the people we idolize and adore? What does this really say about those who had video cameras shoved in their faces for over 60% of their lives? What does it really mean when you've had more pictures of you taken than a 1980 Kodak booth, yet even those who ADORED you will one day say....."Oh yeah, they did pass away didn't they?" I'll tell you what it means. One the surface, we are ALL "forgettable." But on a deeper level it means, for that reason, stop living for other people anyway. These people transcended pop culture and penetrated the souls of those millions and even BILLIONS, yet they still slip away into a distant memory over time.

My 1st Mentor to Millions Volume ("Our Philosophy") I talk about the harsh reality that after your funeral only 10% of the people will spend the extra hour driving to your burial (Request your free copy today!) Sherman Hemsley's death (to me) is a reminder of that. See, we cringe at the thought of Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith, Bono, or Michael Jordan leaving us before we are ready. But guess what...if it happened today, 6 months from now I'd need a "reminder" about "George Jefferson." This is proof that so many of us need to stop living our lives for so called associates who don't even know you, don't even like you, and truly don't care as much as you think about you. It's hard to believe that Steve Jobs LITERALLY changed the WORLD yet in maybe 10 years (depending on what this era's future genius may conjure up) we may find ourselves saying: "Oh yeah....remember that guy from Apple."

I think it's time for you to start living FOR people who live FOR you. Make no mistake about it, that list is short. Not even the title "family member" pre-qualifies one for such a description. But for the most part: our son's, our daughter's, our parents and our siblings and maybe 2 or 3 "BFFs" will claim a VIP seat at your burial; while others take a look at the forecast and make the "final decision" of whether they are coming or not! -Beane
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vvD-BkZjS1Q

Beane is "not" a 'Motivational Speaker.'

From what I understand blogs are written from a slightly different perspective. Well be patient because this is my 1st one:) lol

With all the promoting and voting, support, and campaigning that went into "North America's Next Greatest Speaker (NANGS) Competition, it's only right that I say EXACTLY what's on my mind: Here goes...(clearing throat)... "I am NOT a Motivational Speaker" lol. No seriously, I'm really not. When I tell you the winner, my new friend and sister Felecia Scott deserves that title....she DESERVES that title. She is a rock star with a Speaking Voice like Gladys Knight and stage presence like Diana Ross (like how I picked old school legends don't you:)? Part of me was glad I didn't have to face her in the finals. But then part of me was like, "Brian they could have at least ADVANCED you to the finals lol.

Here's the reality, for those who have seen the video (if not click the "Best OF" on your app or see YouTube), I cannot say that I agree with all of the judges' comments. I mean there's only so much you can do in 3 minutes, but I DO agree that I entertain. lol I guess that's just my style, that's "who I am:)" Not an entertainer in the literal sense (unless were are talking "Nick Negatory" or "The Good Rev. Dr. Deacon Elevation" here), but an entertainer in that I want to do more than just educate and inspire. I want you to be educated and inspired without even knowing or realizing it. So after I calmed all my friends (and Lord my mother lol) down after I got cut from the "Top 10" I had a moment to reflect. Here's what I came up with: "Brian you are a TRAINER who just happens to motivate." Now if this competition was called "North America's Next Greatest Trainer"....WATCHOUT Ms. Scott lol But it wasn't;) People can say all they want...yes it was a women's contest and (maybe) a long shot for a man to win. Yes, it's tough to "get it all in" in 3 minutes. No, every judge/audience member is not going to like your particular style, but this is why it's called a competition lol.

Would I do it again? ABSOLUTELY!! All 10 of the semi-finalists turned out to be some of the best PEOPLE I've ever interacted with in such an environment. In fact, some of us have talked or emailed every day since lol. And by the way, having Ken Kragen say, "Brian you are a star" when he's known for managing icons like Lionel Richie and Kenny Rogers is not too shabby either! (Slight pat on my back lol;) But the competition turned ended up being wwayyy more than just winning or losing. It turned out to be more about reality and relationships. How can I teach those who believe in me to "take chances" while I sit and watch a competition in my chosen field from the sidelines? I couldn't let that happen. But I will tell you this, one HELLUVA TRAINING will come out of it at the November Academy, lol And that, my friend's, is what I do: TRAIN!